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inverarity ([personal profile] inverarity) wrote2011-09-17 09:55 pm

The facts, for those who care to know them

I banned [livejournal.com profile] fpb because of his persistent, abusive behavior on my LJ, not because of anything he posted elsewhere.

I haven't done anything to prevent him from reading my posts. I don't even know how I could do that. My journal is completely open; I have never posted anything friends-locked. I have also never deleted anyone's comments, with the exception of spammers. I have screened a very small number that were over-the-top abuse and/or trolling (or, in one instance, an enormous wall of text copy&pasted from his own LJ, for which I provided a link instead).

If banned users are now restricted from reading posts on an LJ from which they have been banned, that's a change LiveJournal has made. The banned user FAQ says nothing about banned users being unable to lurk. (It seems like it would be a silly change for LJ to make since you could cirmcumvent it simply by browsing without signing in to your LJ account.)

As for his whining that I won't answer him, there is an old Korean saying: When I walk around a pile of shit, it's not because I'm afraid of it.

I have never written anything that wasn't the truth as I see it. I may be wrong, I may even be an asshole, but I don't lie.

People are free to read what I've written and read what he's written and make up their own minds. I am happy to answer reasonable questions from people who are not [livejournal.com profile] fpb* if they really want clarification about any of my words.

* I'd answer reasonable questions from [livejournal.com profile] fpb but he's never written anything reasonable when he disagrees with meanyone.


ETA: Dude, the comment you're claiming I "deleted afterward"? It's still there -- I can see it. It's screened. You have the power to screen, unscreen, or delete it, but I did not. Jeebus, not only can't you see entries on my LJ, but apparently you can't even see entries on your own? Learn how to use the Internet before going into hysterics and accusing other people of lying.

As for when I banned you, I told you the exact moment I banned you, which happened during another one of your tirades on my LJ. This isn't a "he said/he said" situation, this is a situation where proof that everything you're saying is exactly the opposite of the truth is right there to be read by anyone.

Re: The banning

[identity profile] ardys-the-ghoul.livejournal.com 2011-09-18 09:02 pm (UTC)(link)
God, stuff like that gives me a headache. I don't blame you at all for getting sick of that insanity.

I am a firm believer that two people can agree to disagree about things while remaining perfectly civil--I find people who seem to take opinions that don't line up with theirs as a personally affront...well, it's distressing to say the least. This fellow seems to be just that sort of person; if you don't agree with him, he construes it as a personal insult.

And this guy is Catholic? I don't know what the Catholics are like in his neck of the woods, but here in the Midwest US they're a relatively inocuous bunch. I'm Agnostic myself, but the majority of my mom's family is Catholic, and I live in a town with a large Catholic population. I generally relate this guy's...I don't know, proselytizing? self-righteousness?...with the Fundamentalist and/or Evangelist crowd.

I was tempted before to ask him, "Why are you so mean?" or a variation along the lines of, "What crawled up your tailpipe and died?" but I thought better of it.

I am thinking that some kind of mental illness may be playing a role here--his behavior just seems too extreme not to be fueled by some kind of psychosis. I would suggest Bipolar Disorder (I have seen him discuss things like a perfectly sane human being before, though not recently); I'm no expert, but I do know someone who is Bipolar, and there are similarities.
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Re: The banning

[identity profile] inverarity.livejournal.com 2011-09-18 09:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, he can be very reasonable, even pleasant, which is one reason I put up with him for so long. Unfortunately, he turns into a vicious beast without warning, and he does it with anyone. (I am but the latest in a long, long string of "friends" he abuses in this manner.)

He's now writing Jesus fan fiction about how I'm going to go to hell for ignoring him.

So, do I seriously suspect mental illness? Yes. OTOH, some people are just uncivilized assholes. The difference is academic since even if he does have a mental illness, there's no chance he'll ever seek help for it, or entertain the possibility that anything about his behavior is problematic.