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I banned
fpb because of his persistent, abusive behavior on my LJ, not because of anything he posted elsewhere.
I haven't done anything to prevent him from reading my posts. I don't even know how I could do that. My journal is completely open; I have never posted anything friends-locked. I have also never deleted anyone's comments, with the exception of spammers. I have screened a very small number that were over-the-top abuse and/or trolling (or, in one instance, an enormous wall of text copy&pasted from his own LJ, for which I provided a link instead).
If banned users are now restricted from reading posts on an LJ from which they have been banned, that's a change LiveJournal has made. The banned user FAQ says nothing about banned users being unable to lurk. (It seems like it would be a silly change for LJ to make since you could cirmcumvent it simply by browsing without signing in to your LJ account.)
As for his whining that I won't answer him, there is an old Korean saying: When I walk around a pile of shit, it's not because I'm afraid of it.
I have never written anything that wasn't the truth as I see it. I may be wrong, I may even be an asshole, but I don't lie.
People are free to read what I've written and read what he's written and make up their own minds. I am happy to answer reasonable questions from people who are not
fpb* if they really want clarification about any of my words.
* I'd answer reasonable questions from
fpb but he's never written anything reasonable when he disagrees with meanyone.
ETA: Dude, the comment you're claiming I "deleted afterward"? It's still there -- I can see it. It's screened. You have the power to screen, unscreen, or delete it, but I did not. Jeebus, not only can't you see entries on my LJ, but apparently you can't even see entries on your own? Learn how to use the Internet before going into hysterics and accusing other people of lying.
As for when I banned you, I told you the exact moment I banned you, which happened during another one of your tirades on my LJ. This isn't a "he said/he said" situation, this is a situation where proof that everything you're saying is exactly the opposite of the truth is right there to be read by anyone.
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I haven't done anything to prevent him from reading my posts. I don't even know how I could do that. My journal is completely open; I have never posted anything friends-locked. I have also never deleted anyone's comments, with the exception of spammers. I have screened a very small number that were over-the-top abuse and/or trolling (or, in one instance, an enormous wall of text copy&pasted from his own LJ, for which I provided a link instead).
If banned users are now restricted from reading posts on an LJ from which they have been banned, that's a change LiveJournal has made. The banned user FAQ says nothing about banned users being unable to lurk. (It seems like it would be a silly change for LJ to make since you could cirmcumvent it simply by browsing without signing in to your LJ account.)
As for his whining that I won't answer him, there is an old Korean saying: When I walk around a pile of shit, it's not because I'm afraid of it.
I have never written anything that wasn't the truth as I see it. I may be wrong, I may even be an asshole, but I don't lie.
People are free to read what I've written and read what he's written and make up their own minds. I am happy to answer reasonable questions from people who are not
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* I'd answer reasonable questions from
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ETA: Dude, the comment you're claiming I "deleted afterward"? It's still there -- I can see it. It's screened. You have the power to screen, unscreen, or delete it, but I did not. Jeebus, not only can't you see entries on my LJ, but apparently you can't even see entries on your own? Learn how to use the Internet before going into hysterics and accusing other people of lying.
As for when I banned you, I told you the exact moment I banned you, which happened during another one of your tirades on my LJ. This isn't a "he said/he said" situation, this is a situation where proof that everything you're saying is exactly the opposite of the truth is right there to be read by anyone.
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Date: 2011-09-18 02:37 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-09-18 05:01 am (UTC)I imagine that Martha Stout's book has a few suggestions concerning how to deal with someone of Fabio's...caliber.
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Date: 2011-09-18 05:16 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-09-18 01:26 pm (UTC)You may be right that he's not a sociopath. But I wouldn't rule it out.
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Date: 2011-09-18 10:11 am (UTC)I've seen a few of his comments around, and I think I may even have had a slight altercation with him once--he struck me as abrasive, and hard-headed as far as differing opinions go (I don't mind when people disagree with my opinions, but I do mind when they act like I'm stupid for having said opinions), but not necessarily ban-worthy.
Then again, I don't make a point to read every comment and I'm sure I've missed most of this particular episode.
The banning
Date: 2011-09-18 12:31 pm (UTC)Re: The banning
Date: 2011-09-18 09:02 pm (UTC)I am a firm believer that two people can agree to disagree about things while remaining perfectly civil--I find people who seem to take opinions that don't line up with theirs as a personally affront...well, it's distressing to say the least. This fellow seems to be just that sort of person; if you don't agree with him, he construes it as a personal insult.
And this guy is Catholic? I don't know what the Catholics are like in his neck of the woods, but here in the Midwest US they're a relatively inocuous bunch. I'm Agnostic myself, but the majority of my mom's family is Catholic, and I live in a town with a large Catholic population. I generally relate this guy's...I don't know, proselytizing? self-righteousness?...with the Fundamentalist and/or Evangelist crowd.
I was tempted before to ask him, "Why are you so mean?" or a variation along the lines of, "What crawled up your tailpipe and died?" but I thought better of it.
I am thinking that some kind of mental illness may be playing a role here--his behavior just seems too extreme not to be fueled by some kind of psychosis. I would suggest Bipolar Disorder (I have seen him discuss things like a perfectly sane human being before, though not recently); I'm no expert, but I do know someone who is Bipolar, and there are similarities.
Re: The banning
Date: 2011-09-18 09:17 pm (UTC)He's now writing Jesus fan fiction about how I'm going to go to hell for ignoring him.
So, do I seriously suspect mental illness? Yes. OTOH, some people are just uncivilized assholes. The difference is academic since even if he does have a mental illness, there's no chance he'll ever seek help for it, or entertain the possibility that anything about his behavior is problematic.
Re: The banning
Date: 2011-09-20 04:17 pm (UTC)Re: The banning
Date: 2011-09-20 09:46 pm (UTC)Yes, he's a trainwreck. And my pity for him is exhausted.
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Date: 2011-09-18 10:13 am (UTC)also, i agree, you've always been quite nice/measured/reasonable in your responses, even when his posts got quite out of hand...
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Date: 2011-09-18 01:47 pm (UTC)All that said, while I understand your temptation to write this post, I can't imagine it'll help. TBQH, the only people who care about the Inverarity/fpb feud are Inverarity and fpb, and nothing you do (nothing anyone could possibly do) will convince fpb he's wrong. If anything, this'll only encourage him. I imagine you know that already, but still, felt it had to be said.
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Date: 2011-09-18 02:11 pm (UTC)That said, my objective was not to convince
Also, when
And yes, I realize that admitting this introduces the likelihood that he'll just keep making shit up about me to try to get me to respond. *sigh*
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Date: 2011-09-20 08:34 pm (UTC)I went on for over eleven-hundred words, and he didn't even lie about me.
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Date: 2011-09-18 09:08 pm (UTC)Along with an apparent inability to recognize sarcasm or exaggeration for the sake of humor (I find this incomprehensible--I have Asperger's, and even I can recognize sarcasm).
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Date: 2011-09-18 09:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-09-20 04:23 am (UTC)This is a prime example of why one should not--one ends up looking like a complete jackass.
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Date: 2011-09-18 10:03 pm (UTC)While it could be mental illness, I honestly doubt it. I suspect it's just your ordinary, run-of-the-mill asshattery.
And, you know, I have more than a bit of that in myself, so I sympathize. If, as Inverarity said, he had a sense of humor about himself, he'd be a far more pleasant person all around.
But that's the way it goes sometimes, for better or (usually) for worse.
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Date: 2011-09-20 04:26 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-09-29 03:00 pm (UTC)They were wrong and I don't think I'll ever quite forgive my parents for that. At the same time in my mid twenties I came off as an arrogant ass who couldn't grasp other people, very much like FBP. I then spent years looking for answers.
FBP strikes me as someone whose pride and arrogance won't let him admit he has a problem. At times I couldn't help but despise him. Still, I pity him.
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Date: 2011-09-29 11:37 pm (UTC)I think it's unlikely that he will ever seek help or change.
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Date: 2011-09-19 01:23 pm (UTC)Hope your thoughts are nice and peaceful now. And I'm looking forward to anything you write, fanfiction, reviews or otherwise. :)
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Date: 2011-09-19 05:12 pm (UTC)Professor: Evolution is evil and wrong and leads to eugenics and Social Darwinism.
Friend: Actually, most Darwinists, including Darwin himself, were against Social Darwinism.
Professor: *proceeds to yell at my friend*
It's amazing how easy it is to get a PhD nowadays...