The facts, for those who care to know them

[inverarity]

I banned fpb because of his persistent, abusive behavior on my LJ, not because of anything he posted elsewhere.

I haven't done anything to prevent him from reading my posts. I don't even know how I could do that. My journal is completely open; I have never posted anything friends-locked. I have also never deleted anyone's comments, with the exception of spammers. I have screened a very small number that were over-the-top abuse and/or trolling (or, in one instance, an enormous wall of text copy&pasted from his own LJ, for which I provided a link instead).

If banned users are now restricted from reading posts on an LJ from which they have been banned, that's a change LiveJournal has made. The banned user FAQ says nothing about banned users being unable to lurk. (It seems like it would be a silly change for LJ to make since you could cirmcumvent it simply by browsing without signing in to your LJ account.)

As for his whining that I won't answer him, there is an old Korean saying: When I walk around a pile of shit, it's not because I'm afraid of it.

I have never written anything that wasn't the truth as I see it. I may be wrong, I may even be an asshole, but I don't lie.

People are free to read what I've written and read what he's written and make up their own minds. I am happy to answer reasonable questions from people who are not fpb* if they really want clarification about any of my words.

* I'd answer reasonable questions from fpb but he's never written anything reasonable when he disagrees with meanyone.


ETA: Dude, the comment you're claiming I "deleted afterward"? It's still there -- I can see it. It's screened. You have the power to screen, unscreen, or delete it, but I did not. Jeebus, not only can't you see entries on my LJ, but apparently you can't even see entries on your own? Learn how to use the Internet before going into hysterics and accusing other people of lying.

As for when I banned you, I told you the exact moment I banned you, which happened during another one of your tirades on my LJ. This isn't a "he said/he said" situation, this is a situation where proof that everything you're saying is exactly the opposite of the truth is right there to be read by anyone.

Comments

[ardys-the-ghoul.livejournal.com]

he takes the entire thing way way way too seriously.

Along with an apparent inability to recognize sarcasm or exaggeration for the sake of humor (I find this incomprehensible--I have Asperger's, and even I can recognize sarcasm).

[inverarity.livejournal.com]

No, he has no ability to grasp nuance, and absolutely no sense of humor about himself.

[ardys-the-ghoul.livejournal.com]

I always say one should never take oneself too seriously.

This is a prime example of why one should not--one ends up looking like a complete jackass.

[tealterror0.livejournal.com]

I think that's just an extension of his inability, or unwillingness, to understand other people in the first place. Every time I've seen him "debate," he never actually attempts to understand the other person's position, and instead just immediately assumes the absolute worst about them--which I imagine is why he turns to the insult so quickly.

While it could be mental illness, I honestly doubt it. I suspect it's just your ordinary, run-of-the-mill asshattery.

And, you know, I have more than a bit of that in myself, so I sympathize. If, as Inverarity said, he had a sense of humor about himself, he'd be a far more pleasant person all around.

But that's the way it goes sometimes, for better or (usually) for worse.

[ardys-the-ghoul.livejournal.com]

Originally, I thought maybe English wasn't his first language and the problem was a language barrier. Apparently, though, that isn't the case.

[kerneyhead.livejournal.com]

What he does have I suspect is untreated Aspergers. I have it and I walked into situations and generally came off as a jerk for years and did not understand peoples reactions until my family revealed to me at 25 that 'Oh yeah, we knew about it since you were 5-6, but we assumed it was a mistake or you would grow out of it and if we showed enough love, it wouldn't be a problem.

They were wrong and I don't think I'll ever quite forgive my parents for that. At the same time in my mid twenties I came off as an arrogant ass who couldn't grasp other people, very much like FBP. I then spent years looking for answers.

FBP strikes me as someone whose pride and arrogance won't let him admit he has a problem. At times I couldn't help but despise him. Still, I pity him.

[inverarity.livejournal.com]

I had never considered Aspergers before, but that seems plausible also.

I think it's unlikely that he will ever seek help or change.