She is better, don't get me wrong. You're right that she talks it out with her friends more (with the exceptions you noted). But if Alex wants to do something, there's never really any doubt that she'll end up doing it. She might talk with Anna (and the rest of her friends) about it, she might even argue with them about whether or not it's the best thing to do, but I don't believe I recall a single time Anna (or anyone else, but especially her) has managed to convince Alex not to do something.
I'm not saying it was immoral for Alex to order Anna around. Given the situation, it was fair enough. But IMO, in a healthy relationship there'd be no need for orders; requests would be enough.
As for the power dynamic issues...well, I think partly we're just coming from different life experiences. A lot of my relationships--maybe even most--don't really have a 'leader.' I've never been married so I can't speak to that. But I don't think the Alex/Anna relationship even has the "different spheres of authority" thing you talk about. Alex is basically in charge everywhere.
Now, maybe you're right that in time, their personalities will change to the extent that a romantic relationship would be healthier. Undoubtedly they are much different than how they were in Book 1. But as they are now, I just can't ship them. :/ Want them to hook up for a time, yes--I think that would be interesting--but stay together forever, no.
Well, at the very least I hope that, should her eventual partner (if she even has one, which is definitely not a certainty) wants her not to do something, that will change what Alex wants to do, some of the time. She'll never stop being reckless and headstrong, but there's a difference between that and "I don't care what you think I should do, I'll do whatever I want anyway."
(And yes, I'm aware your post was mostly a joke, lol.)
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I'm not saying it was immoral for Alex to order Anna around. Given the situation, it was fair enough. But IMO, in a healthy relationship there'd be no need for orders; requests would be enough.
As for the power dynamic issues...well, I think partly we're just coming from different life experiences. A lot of my relationships--maybe even most--don't really have a 'leader.' I've never been married so I can't speak to that. But I don't think the Alex/Anna relationship even has the "different spheres of authority" thing you talk about. Alex is basically in charge everywhere.
Now, maybe you're right that in time, their personalities will change to the extent that a romantic relationship would be healthier. Undoubtedly they are much different than how they were in Book 1. But as they are now, I just can't ship them. :/ Want them to hook up for a time, yes--I think that would be interesting--but stay together forever, no.
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Do you think this would be different with any partner Alex might wind up with? ;)
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(And yes, I'm aware your post was mostly a joke, lol.)