Requires Hate also makes me think of various art and social scenes I've encountered over the years.
There was always at least one person who was more dramatic than most and not always in positive ways.
Most of the time, these people had their moments of being a trainwreck or an asshole but were otherwise just normally flawed/energetic people.
Sometimes, however, they were truly damaged or damaging and it's amazing how long the scene let them keep being "interesting" even though they were starting to hurt themselves or others.
This was partially a respect for boundaries - one has to be very careful when judging or interfering with another person's life - but sometimes it was because people were more interested in the drama than the person (at least as long as it didn't damage them).
Sometimes the loudmouth with the heart of gold is actually an abusive asshole. Or the quirky, winsome sort has a drug/mental problem.
This translates online to types who seem abrasive yet keep things moving but turn out to be so unpleasant and aggressive they shut down participation. Except since it is just text it's even harder to tell where those lines are.
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Date: 2014-11-07 06:08 pm (UTC)There was always at least one person who was more dramatic than most and not always in positive ways.
Most of the time, these people had their moments of being a trainwreck or an asshole but were otherwise just normally flawed/energetic people.
Sometimes, however, they were truly damaged or damaging and it's amazing how long the scene let them keep being "interesting" even though they were starting to hurt themselves or others.
This was partially a respect for boundaries - one has to be very careful when judging or interfering with another person's life - but sometimes it was because people were more interested in the drama than the person (at least as long as it didn't damage them).
Sometimes the loudmouth with the heart of gold is actually an abusive asshole. Or the quirky, winsome sort has a drug/mental problem.
This translates online to types who seem abrasive yet keep things moving but turn out to be so unpleasant and aggressive they shut down participation. Except since it is just text it's even harder to tell where those lines are.